What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a diagnosable personality disorder whereby a person has a self-centred character and an excessive preoccupation with themselves and their own needs. This can often be at the expense of others, including a partner and children. Narcissism can be a normal personality trait, but excessive levels of narcissism can lead to harmful and abusive behaviours. This could therefore become a form of emotional abuse and lead to long-term effects on a recipient partner in terms of mental health, self-esteem, confidence and trust.

Recognising the Signs of A Narcissist

There are many ways in which narcissism can manifest itself and it is important that this is recognised. It is believed that one in twenty people in the UK have a form of narcissism and it is a common reason for marriages breaking down, leading to divorce and separation. It can also have a huge impact on how finances and children are involved in a relationship. Here are some common ways in which narcissism can be harmful in a relationship:

  • A narcissist will view people as objects to be used for their own benefit, rather than as people.
  • A narcissist can’t see everyday things from another person’s perspective.
  • A narcissist lacks empathy and will always seek to blame other people rather than take responsibility themselves.
  • A narcissist has a sense of entitlement and will always want their own way.
  • A narcissist will resist change and won’t bend or recognise the needs of others.
  • A narcissist will be sensitive to criticism and can be exploitative, manipulative, controlling and envious.

If you recognise any of these signs in a partner and want support in ending a relationship and seeking a divorce, contact our family law team at Ison Harrison today.

Practical Tips When Leaving A Narcissist

A narcissist will not respond well to being labelled as such, and often will welcome an argument or a dispute, because it provides them with an opportunity to prove they are right and to prove their superiority. For this reason, it is important to manage a situation carefully and to avoid conflict where possible. A narcissist often doesn’t believe the law applies to them, which can make the legal process challenging.  You can therefore take practical steps to help you end the relationship and achieve a resolution with regards to financial and children related issues.

  • Specialist support – Seek specialist legal support as soon as possible so that you understand your rights and how the divorce process will work. Our specialist family lawyers can assist you in navigating the difficulties which narcissists pose during the legal process. You can also seek emotional support from counsellors, therapists or support groups where you may meet people in exactly the same situation, who you may be able to share experiences with.
  • Professional – Keep your composure, be co-operative and make sure you meet all your deadlines in terms of submitting information. There is a good chance a narcissist won’t comply with such arrangements and will be difficult and awkward in comparison, and this can work in your favour.
  • Facts – Avoid ambiguity when describing behaviours and stick to facts. Don’t let a narcissist have any room for argument.
  • Behaviours – Keep a record of your partner’s actions as evidence of their behaviours and their impact, particularly on children. These could be relevant to your case, particularly when dealing with child arrangements.
  • Boundaries – Avoid direct contact with your partner as much as possible, taking away this contact often starves a narcissist of the validation they need and can expose more harmful behaviours.

Professional Family Law Support for Dealing With A Narcissist

At Ison Harrison we understand that leaving an abusive relationship can be very difficult and needs to be handled very delicately. We can support you in recognising narcissistic behaviours and advise on how to resolve disputes and advance a divorce process based on your specific circumstances. Contact our team of specialist family law solicitors today and we can help you manage a narcissistic relationship with the health and wellbeing of you and your children in mind.

Our family team will guide you through each step of the process, so that you and your family can receive the right protection. If you require legal advice, call us on 0113 284 5000 or alternatively email family@isonharrison.co.uk